One of the primary difficulties in adjusting to life post baby is the apparent chasm that forms between the new mom and her old friends.Â I myself felt this the first time my lovely group of friends descended on us post birth. In two weeks, it seemed as if I had lost any ability to think of anything other than my baby and I felt that there was suddenly no common ground.
There are obvious reasons for the loss of friends, post baby. Your schedules change. You’re free for lunches, not dinners, the â€˜en-route home’ telephone time is now bath time, noisy restaurants or pre dinner drinks don’t suit a young child and theatres, cinemas, clubs and concerts are simply often not pushchair or carseat friendly.Â It is so easy to let time pass, and valuable friendships fade away.
They say that if you don’t know what to do with your child, ask someone who isn’t a parent, because they have all the answers. It is so true. I knew a LOT about parenting until the day my baby was born, and then it all went out the window.
I can’t believe you’re four months old already. It tugs at my heart and takes my breath away when I think how fast the time is going, and how soon you’ll be so very independent of me.