I made an alarming and dreadful discovery recently: I don’t know how to play.
I’ve been trying to think about the games I used to play as a child, and I simply don’t remember any. What I do remember is running drills with my younger sister and brother, timing them to see how quickly they could be safely nestled in the bomb shelter with their creature comforts. Or when we no longer lived on the border and the war was over, I’d do timed drills with them to see how quickly they could get into their pre-approved hiding places at the top of the cupboard, just in case someone came into the house with the intent to do harm â€“ we didn’t even have TV then, so who knows where my imagination came from! (more…)
One of the primary difficulties in adjusting to life post baby is the apparent chasm that forms between the new mom and her old friends.Â I myself felt this the first time my lovely group of friends descended on us post birth. In two weeks, it seemed as if I had lost any ability to think of anything other than my baby and I felt that there was suddenly no common ground.
There are obvious reasons for the loss of friends, post baby. Your schedules change. You’re free for lunches, not dinners, the â€˜en-route home’ telephone time is now bath time, noisy restaurants or pre dinner drinks don’t suit a young child and theatres, cinemas, clubs and concerts are simply often not pushchair or carseat friendly.Â It is so easy to let time pass, and valuable friendships fade away.
But there are ways of keeping your friends, by keeping a few pointers in mind… (more…)